Let me tell you a bit about myself. I grew up being the quiet one. I was the one who could be a complete goof with my family but to the outside world, I appeared more serious. I was always the one who seemed older than my age. I was and still am a deep thinker. .. an over thinker. I’m an observer. I think the quiet ones always are. Do you know what happens when you are an observer? You learn people. You learn what makes them tick. You see interactions a bit clearer. You can read expressions better and you learn secrets. You see what makes someone vulnerable, happy, sad, excited… it’s all first hand knowledge that you can put in the vault for later use. You make notes in your head… this person really likes this… that person is super passionate about that… you learn the importance of their life… their inner being.
Now is where I become vulnerable to my world. It’s been quite a year for me. Quite a year. It’s been a year of anxiety. It’s been a year of major self-reflection. It’s been a year of digging deep inside and recognizing myself, my importance in this world, seeing the reasons that I matter, feeling deep down that I belong here. Although it hurts me to say it, I just didn’t feel it. I didn’t for a long time. I have spent my entire life trying to make everyone around me feel important, feel loved, feel special, feel needed. Through all that, I’ve built solid relationships but at the same time it caused me at times to feel that I wasn’t worth caring about. Through nothing but through my own head, I made myself feel like I wasn’t important… and that’s hard to write. I felt empty. I felt forgotten. I felt that no one cared, which was bizarre because that could not have been further than the truth. I had a solid core of people around me that were able to reassure me that I meant something. I look back on my feelings from the past year. I look at pictures of myself. I can see the empty and that makes me sand. What I found though is that emptiness gave me strength. When I started to feel that strength I wanted to write, and I did. I took my strength in words and I put it to paper. That is where the #YouMatterToMe project begins.
We live in a world where technology is everywhere. Personalization has disappeared. I’m so very guilty of it myself. I walk around with my phone in my hand. It’s my connection to the outside world. I have people in my life that hate it, and I truly understand why even if they don’t think I do. For me, as a stay at home mom, it has become my life blood. I’m at a point in my own life where most of my friends are working during the day. I feel blessed that I have the opportunity to stay at home with my children but it also makes me feel very alone. It’s an experience that is new to me over the past 2 years or so. I’ve always had people around to interact with in person aside from my children and it made a difference- a HUGE difference. When those connections were lost, so was I. Through the fault of no one, life interfered and my world became void of adult interaction. The strength and comradery of friendship is still there, but it’s different. It’s behind a screen. Human contact is lost. For someone who is a deep feeler, a deep thinker, someone who craves the sound of a voice, the feel of a good hug, the warmth of a smile… the loss of that just changes your world. I had nothing left but words.
Words. Words can mean so much if written correctly. They can make you feel warm inside. They can make you feel loved. They can make you cry. So this is what I ask of you: Write. Just write.
My undertaking, which I’ve started slowly but only because it has true meaning, is to write handwritten letters. It’s a lost practice. I implore you to join me in this task.
The #YouMatterToMe project
Sit yourself down with a cup of coffee, tea, wine, whiskey… whatever you need to make yourself relax and reflect. Think about the people in your life who are important to you. It may be someone who you live with. It can be someone you grew up it. It can be a mentor, your brother, a friend you lost touch with, anyone. Just make that list. Start one by one and sit down with a pen and paper. I’m asking you to shut off all your distractions. Sit quietly, think and write.
- Write to that person and tell them WHY they matter to you.
- HOW they have changed your life by just being a part of it.
- Tell them why YOU need them in your life
- Show them through YOUR WORDS that they are important not just to you but to this world
I’m glad you’re in my life. #YouMatterToMe.
Make the letter long. Make it short. It doesn’t make a difference. Sign it. Just pop a stamp on and SEND IT. Make a difference in someone’s life. Be vulnerable and show your strength in order to give them strength. Everyone has battles in their life that they keep silent. Knowing you have someone who love and adores you can make all the difference in the world. Show you care.
Get started now with this printable.